Sex is all around us, flowers growing wild, in churches in the rain, in everything yet we seem to have such a fear of our relationship to sex. We as human beings still do not fully aknowledge that our sexual nature is a direct gateway to our soul. We believe that if we openly embrace our primal desires then there is something sick and twisted in our being. We are so focused on the way the world and others see us, to ensure we are behaving in the right way, rather than fully embracing the great gifts that our sexual nature can offer us.
How many of us shy away from fully claiming that wild animalistic desires that burn within us, in fear of rejection, how many of us judge our bodies feel ashamed of our nakedness, yet how were we born? Naked, it is our natural state, society religion and in a sense our evolution has dictated how we need to behave in a proper respectful manner in relation to our sexuality.
“Sex keeps us connected to our deepest natures and links us to our roots. In that way it expands the source from which we live our lives.”
For human beings, our sexuality which encapsulates sex, desires and love and which is a fundamental part of life, reaches deep down into the core of our being. We love life, and through our sexuality we find an expression of both our love and our life. Likewise, our life was conceived from sex, and the sexual act in human beings is most meaningful as an expression of love. Indeed, for human beings, sex, love, and life – at the deepest level – are functionally identical.
So why if our sexuality connects us deeply to our soul do so many of us repress our sexual natures, pushing deep down into the depth of our being and denying ourselves the full experience of the very essence of our self.
Mainly in the western world sex, sexuality has the stigma of something that we should be ashamed of, throughout our history sex although a mystery has also be blamed as a root to all evil. Our sexuality is indeed a natural part of our humanness, it can take us deep into a world filled with passion, tantalising fantasies and inspire our creative juices, our imagination. To deny our sexuality is therefore to surpress our humanness, of course when we use our sexuality from the stand point of seeking validation or proving our worth in life, the repercussions to our soul can be ultimately destroying and therefore sex can in truth be classed as the root of all evil. It is our relationship to sex that will enable us to transcend and enjoy such beauty that can be found within sex.
Without sexuality, we would be something but not human as we know ourselves and others to be. Sexuality is a passionate spark, deep within, that energizes us for justice-making aswell as love-making. This incredible gift moves us beyond ourselves to connect, to be with, and take pleasure in the company of others. In sustaining this self-other connections, people do not lose themselves so much as realign themselves in their “in-betweenness,” which is home also for the Divine. In this process of making connections, they and we become larger, different, and miraculously, more themselves, more ourselves, authetic and real.
The energies of sex are not confined to the physical, but can be used on the emotional and spiritual planes as well. However, for many people, sexuality is also one of the most “wounded” areas of the psyche, turning this profound joy into one of the most tortured areas of life.
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