Whatever exploration to which we assign value, to which we add intention, choice, presence and purpose, that exploration becomes elevated, meaningful beautiful – Sacred.

Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is. Yet to penetrate the darkness we must summon all the powers of enlightenment that consciousness can offer ( Carl Jung)

Often going through pain becomes the access to pleasure; it becomes a question of degree and the intention behind the exploration.
In search for our own authenticity and wholeness, our shadow needs to be invited in. When one learns to embrace their shadow and integrate into their lives, completeness of self is achieved. The more we repress, ignore and make excuses for those parts of us that we believe to be dysfunctional the more intense and destructive our shadow side becomes.

If we consider our sexuality, those desires, fantasises that creep into the dark corners of our minds, which we judge feel ashamed about and therefore deny, the more power they hold over us and eventually cause us to express our sexual nature from a dysfunctional standpoint. For many our wounds are rooted deep within our sexuality, society, cultural influences, how our parents view sexuality contribute to how we grow as adults and express ourselves sexually.

In today’s society we cannot escape the emphasis on sex, it is in everything from selling coca cola to the family car, it is portrayed in a pornographic framework, that is that it creates a believe in the psyche that if we do not possess attain these things there is something fundamentally wrong with us, we will not be accepted in this world keeping up with the Jones concept.

Eroticism has seemly been lost; the subtle nuances no longer exist therefore creating this world of economic and functional wealth. For some like myself the beauty and depth of sex, sexual expression and a relationship with the Deep Mystery still burns deep within our bellies.  The majority of human beings still see their sexuality as flawed something to be hidden away and only expressed in small acceptable ways. If we seek to experiment to engage in ‘unnormal’ sexual practices such as BDSM, we are judged, criticised accused of been sexually dysfunctional, but what is normal about been in a monogamous relationship where neither partner is truly expressing embracing their full sexual nature. The husband or wife that seeks sexual gratification, by having an affair, paying for sex, would it not make more sense for those in relationships that are sexually unfulfilling to ask why they are that way, what needs are not been met, why do they seek deep pleasure outside of the relationship outside of themselves????

Human sexuality is still a deep mystery and I believe always will be, we are complex beings, our soul craves and seeks out deep pleasure in life and when we do not embrace and welcome our shadow side into play the desires and actions we portray act out in ways of anger, violence, manipulation, hatred and collectively these emotions fester and end playing out in inhumane atrocities such as paedophilia, sex crimes, murder etc etc..
Is it normal for a human being to deny their sexual nature, to lock it away and never experience deep pleasure of sexual expression, of course not, the more something is denied the more control it has over ones life. When we learn and accept our own sexual nature we have a choice on if we act out our desires psychically or find other ways to express that powerful life force within.

Copywright www.esensualsoul.com